What's the worst part about a break up?

This is kind of a trick question. Unless you are completely disgusted with your partner and see no redeemable qualities in them, there are lots of terrible parts in a break up. But, you all know what I’m going to say the worst is, don’t you? If you don’t then I’m pretty sure you’ve never gone through one of those terrible breakups that cause you to drone on and on to people about your former life. 

It isn’t just the memories of the good times you had. I know that’s what you were thinking. It’s something a little more specific than that. In reality, it’s every little thing that reminds you of them. OK, I’ll admit that this has to do with the memories, but you aren’t seeing my point here. It’s that song that has lyrics that so perfectly fit what you had that you have to turn the channel every time it comes on the radio. It’s the cute bunny you see on your run that you would have taken a picture of to send the other person because cute animals were something you shared to make each other feel better. It’s seeing an insignia for a group they were in and immediately turning away and simultaneously wanting to rip it down. Maybe it’s as simple as seeing a city you’ve been to together in an article you are reading. Anything can trigger a memory or a thought of that person you’d rather not think about.

This part of the break up can last months, but more likely it will last years after you’ve been apart. It’s just a lingering feeling and reminder that you possibly lost the best thing you’re going to get – or it just reminds you of how much of a tool they are. Either way, it’s a painful experience. And short of burning out a little section of your brain, it’s something that even getting into a better relationship won’t heal. 

Listening to those songs you shared or wearing those clothes they loved after you end things is like pressing on a bruise. You know it’s tender, but you want to feel how sore it is to test to see if it’s healing or just to see if it still hurts. You know you shouldn’t do it, but you have to see how it feels anyway. And even if you can stand listening to the entire song, do you really feel better? Maybe you feel a little more empowered, but then again, you spent an entire song probably thinking about your old relationship. Now how do you feel?

Here, I’ll help you feel better. If you don’t like chocolate (we aren’t friends if this is the case) go pick up a pack of WarHeads.  Yes they still make them. If you do like chocolate go pick up a pack of Butter Fingers.  I bet you haven’t eaten those things in a while. Are you thinking about how delicious those sugary morsels are and about how simple things used to be the last time you had them? 

There you go, feel better?

DISCLAIMER: If the candies above are directly linked to a past relationship of yours I just made my point. Go pick up a box of Lunchable Pizzas, you’ll feel better.